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How To Shut Down a Workplace Bully with a Tic Tac

Sam Glenn is an Award Winning Motivational Speaker, Author and Performance Artist

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This may seem slightly humorous and I hope it makes you laugh, but the reality is there are workplace bullies who make life way more stressful than it should be and going to work incredibly miserable.

So, is it really possible to shut down a
workplace bully with only a Tic Tac?

Let’s just say, I am speaking from experience on this one. You don’t have to do this, but it will definitely give you something positive to think about or day dream about.

Understand, at some point, if a workplace bully doesn’t change their behavior or minimal effort is being taken to effectively deal with the situation, you are kind of forced to either lose your mind or get creative!

I say, “Get creative!”

Now imagine me switching into my infomercial voice….
Because it’s just more fun to share this technique in that voice.

Have you ever wanted a simple, yet effective way
to silence the office or workplace bully?

You know the person with high insecurities, a bloated sense of ego, always out for themselves, is often rude, sabotages other people’s success and believes speaking down to people is acceptable behavior. That person! The person who makes you fear Monday’s and pretty much every workday.

Do you know anyone like that?
Well, have I got an idea for you!

My training strategy only costs about $.99 cents —depending where you shop. There is no confrontation involved whatsoever, so don’t be afraid or nervous. In fact, there is fun built into this technique. All you need are breath mints and the ability to act a little bit.

Any breathe mints will do, but my personal preference are tic tacs because it draws attention when you shake them in the bottle and they are only 1 1/2 calories and come in many delicious flavors and colors. But, be careful, if the real J. Peterman catches you with them, you will be out on your can. (Can you guess what TV show that line is from??)

How it works:

The next time someone is being rude, disrespectful or talking down to you, follow these simple steps:

Step 1: Create a weird expression on your face and turn away like you smell something insanely horrible and toxic. If you want, for better dramatic effects, make your eyes roll back a little as if you may pass out or possibly faint. You don’t need to be perfect, but set aside some time to practice in front of a mirror.

This is called the distraction. It should be distressing enough that it gets their attention and they pause their bully ways and ask “Whats wrong or what’s your deal?”

Step 2: Hold your hand up in a gentle and non threatening way – like your asking someone to stop or step back. Almost a pushing someone away motion, but don’t physically do it. This indicates you are trying to escape or get away from something pungent and gross.

Step 3: Use this this script I created:

“I am so sorry, I want to hear all what your saying, but would you mind taking a breath mint or something…pleassse? Do you not smell that??”

Then offer them a Tic Tac and encourage them to keep the entire bottle as a gift. Let them know you insist. Then ask, “Would you mind if we took a short break or picked this up later? I really need to get some fresh air or I may get sick.”

Optional sayings to include :

You can add on to the above script by saying any of these creative lines (below)…but don’t go to far over the top or you could mess up the whole process and you don’t want that. These just make it funnier.

“Please, I may get sick if you don’t eat a mint soon – for real! Did you have ketchup and onions for breakfast? Did something happen to you on the way to work? Do you not smell that – the plants look sad. Seriously, is everything okay…that doesn’t smell normal? I would get that checked out. Has anybody else said anything to you or are they just hiding? Do you need to go home for a bit and lay down?”

At this point, you have interrupted their negative pattern. This pattern is a behavior known as being a bully. Halting this pattern is huge and your goal.

At this point, take a mental picture because the look on their face will be priceless. They will look embarrassed, worried and perhaps confused. They may want to go hide and curl up in ball. There is nothing wrong with that.

Scoreboard time:
Bully: 0
You: +1

You have now knocked them off their high horse without being mean or saying anything bad. You were creative. You deserve a pat on the back or a trip to Starbucks at least.

Repeat the process as many times as needed until a boundary has been created and the bully just tries to avoid you at all costs. A boundary is important because it prevents them from making your life more stressful.

If they pop a Tic Tac likes it’s no biggie and continue to be rude or bully you, pause again and say, “Oh no, that didn’t work. You gotta go do something. For real. Please!”

Sometimes it take a second round to make the bully go down.

The benefits to you, less stress and you will actually enjoy going to work, work harder, get more done and not live in fear of someone trying to mentally push you around daily. All thanks to a tiny Tic Tac and some creative thinking.

Remember, what you permit is what you promote.

Do not empower bullies or tolerate their shenanigans. If you don’t do something, they will continue to push you around, treat you poorly and make your life miserable. Being a bully and allowing it in the workplace is unacceptable. They need to learn there are consequences to their attitude and actions no matter what role or what level.

Something to keep in mind, If you don’t want to wait for karma,
go buy some Tic Tacs and have some fun!

 

Sam Glenn is an award winning motivational speaker who kicks off big meetings and conferences with energy, engagement and enthusiasm. For speaking inquiries and booking information: email us: contact@samglenn.com

10 Think Positive Quotes by Sam Glenn, The Attitude Guy

10 Think Positive Quotes by Sam Glenn, The Attitude Guy

Positive quotes inspire the mind to think better so we act better to achieve better. As I coined the phrase, “A positive quote a day keeps a negative attitude away!”   The following are 10 of my personal  think positive quotes to keep you positive and point your attitude and actions north.

Think Positive Quote #1: Your greatest opponent in life isn’t your competition, it is a negative thought.

Think Positive Quote #2: A positive attitude doesn’t stop negative things from happening to you, but it does give you the mental clarity and creativity to overcome the negative things better and faster than negative thinking will.

Think Positive Quote #3:  Enthusiasm gives your attitude and actions SOUL!

Think Positive Quote #4: Thinking negative has negative consequences.  If you want to change your consequences, then you have got to change your thinking.

Think Positive Quote #5: Your attitude can be your greatest asset or your biggest liability and you determine that every day.

Think Positive Quote #6: When you doubt yourself, you defeat yourself.  When you believe in yourself, anything is possible.

Think Positive Quote #7: In life we will look back and see either Footprints in the Sand or Butt Prints in the Sand. Footprints in a positive impression in time with the greatness of who you are. If you see footprints, it means you gave your best. If you see butt prints, it means you made excuses. Do your best with what you have every day.

Think Positive Quote #8:  Adversity doesn’t make appointments.  Adversity is an unscheduled appointment to wrestle with your attitude.  This is why you have to keep your attitude in tip top shape every day, because you never know what you may encounter.

Think Positive Quote #9:  Positive thinking will do more for you than negative thinking.  To think positive, you must feed your mind positive information daily.

Think Positive Quote #10:  Thinking positive is not about living in a fantasy land and ignoring reality, but rather it is developing the mental pathway to positive options for your life.  When you think negative, your mental pathway leads to a dead end.  When you think positive, you have a mental toughness to overcome obstacles, try new ideas and do what has to be done in order to succeed.

Motivational quotes are an excellent source of nutrition for your attitude.  It only takes you a few seconds to read one and the affects will last you a long time.  Read a positive quote every day.  A positive quote a day keeps a negative attitude away.

This information is compiled, researched and written by Sam Glenn, The Attitude Guy.   Sam is a sought after motivational speaker by companies and organizations that want to re-charge attitude’s for positive action.  Sam Glenn offers strategies that combat stress and negativity in the workplace and ideas that ramp up teamwork, communication and the right culture where people will thrive.  Sam Glenn is a great kick off or closing to any event.  Sam Glenn’s Official Website: (www.SamGlenn.com)

Making Meetings Fun

The other day, I jumped on Facebook to the tune of a fan telling me, “Sam we watched your videos in our meeting today, and we all laughed so hard!”  

I think she and everyone at the meeting had a little fun. It doesn’t have to be a video of Sam Glenn–ME–to get you laughing, but it doesn’t hurt. (lol) However, for years I have been telling organizations, managers, HR, and leaders that once in a while you need to have some fun in the workplace.

I once met a woman who became physically ill because the stress was so intense at work. She came home exhausted, was too tired to work out, cook a healthy meal, or function in a healthy way. The stress built up so much that it manifested itself in some negative ways for her.

We all have different work environments, but there are some things that are common. I think every workplace has that one negative downer who drains everyone. You know the type. The day you bring in donuts as nice gesture, that person barks off at you, “Real NICE! You bring in donuts on the day I am starting my diet!”

Is it wrong to add a little inspiration to your meetings, maybe to wrap them up? I mean, if you are in a leadership role, don’t you want your people to be charged with positive energy? I guess it boggles the mind when organizations say we can’t afford to have fun, or we don’t have time.  

My philosophy is that it should be a constant and never-ending quest to bring out the best version of your people. The moment you take fun out of a company is the moment you remove the substances that combat stress and negativity. Take fun away, and you take away passion, engagement, enthusiasm, loyalty, commitment and dedication. TRUST ME–I know my stuff. For 15 years, I have worked with hundreds of companies–small shops to  Fortune 500–and I am telling you, fun is not a luxury; it’s a necessity.

So, let me ask you about your organization. Do you have fun?

Is fun good to have in the workplace?

What ways do you have fun or lighten things up?

I think if you define fun in such a way that it makes people happier about life and the work they do, then that fun is living up to its calling.

On the flip side, I know companies that define fun in ways that can bring out the worst in people. Recently, I got wind of a company that is going to do something called the Drunk Olympics. They get on a bus, go to a retreat, and drink and drink and do activities drunk. Then they get back on the bus, get dropped off at their cars, and the rule is you have to be at work by 8 a.m. the next morning or you are fired.

REALLY?? Can I just say whoever came up with this concept of employee fun just might qualify for my idiot of the year. Yes, I said idiot. You may say, “Sam, I don’t like that word ‘idiot.’” 

To them I reply, “I don’t like people being idiots.” This is a concept that hurts. As I like to also say, “Stupid should hurt.”

It never hurts to consult professionals who know how to rejuvenate a company by incorporating fun in positive ways. I observed one company that purchased bikes, then divided people up and gave them a time limit to build the bike as a team. There were prizes and such and to top it off, the bikes were donated to youngsters who didn’t have or could not afford a bike.  

I suppose there are a lot of ways you can do it right–have fun and be productive at the same time. But the bottom line is, you gotta have some fun once in a while. I think it’s funny that people will actually choose to get paid less to work at a company that is known for having more fun.  Get the picture?

Fun is good!

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